Jen Lin-Lui from wildhina blog
There are a couple of articles worth reading today… Dalrock cites Stephen Baskerville’s brilliant analysis of the modern divorce industry in the US — and argues that Anger is an appropriate response to injustice. Which it is… but he is being told to shut up, be silent, and let the system crunch through a few more families. But then Flavia steps to the plate and she gives the end-game.
To the man in the divorce. Leave. You don’t know your children anyway. South Korea has no extradition laws and any semi attractive Caucasian man that speaks English can land a good job at a university teaching business or English. You will get laid like tile and have a lot of income. Leave. Leave. Leave. When you children are 18 have them set up a bank account and give them money. Leave. Leave.
LEAVE! Or your life will be ruined. Leave today.
Now, this is the modern end game. Men leave. Children are unprotected. Not my circumstances — I’m raising my boys — but I have seen this many times.
And it really does not matter what you do. You can be loving, caring, faithful… but divorce is unilateral. Using not divorced as a metric for faithfulness does not work when the laws and practices are against you. An example of this is that OTC looked at the data and tried to generalise @ TC a couple of days ago.
What I’m curious to know is how nominal, active, and non-nominal are defined, and if they were defined before the results were produced. I could take a group of people, find out their divorce status, and then define the three categories retroactively so it gets the results I wanted. But I’m suspicious about everything these days, when someone’s trying to sell me something.
It also matters how the numbers are presented- by showing them as a % deviation from a baseline (and what is that baseline?) then it hides the absolute rate, which is still pretty high as Dalrock points out. Not to mention percentage changes can be done in two different modes, as a fixed percentage, or some percentage of another number. (As in: If the divorce rate is currently 50% and goes down by 50%, is it now 25% or 0%? The ambiguity is almost always taken advantage of for a reason.)
Question – does everyone here considers themselves “active”? That’s great, but why is there no shortage of divorced folks posting here? Shouldn’t there be almost none, then?
The reason that we have a high divorce rate is that laws we have encourage it. Simple economics: if you want more of a behaviour, pay for it. The no-fault (unilateral) and assumption of female child care built into US law means that men are kicked out of the family home, asked to pay draconian child support, have limited access to their children… and no motivation to stay around. For the kids are gone, and their income has gone to.
At this point, Korea looks good. Russia looks good. New Zealand would look good apart from the fact we let the FBI imprison people for four months on allegations (your tax dollars at work) that may not even meet our criteria for extradition.
But there is another model. And that is Germany. Where men just assume any feminist is not worthy of a Long Term relationship. Again, from Alte…
Germany is split into homemaking mothers of 2 or 3 and childless career women. Not much in-between. In the rest of Europe, most women have one or two children, so the birth rate ends up similar but more women have children. Germany has concentrated on pro-natalist policies, rather than work-life balance.
The men there just seem uninterested in marrying feminists. They don’t see the point, as you can just sleep with them and then dump them when you’re finished.
Well, she lived there. She elaborated.
And most German women do not know this?
Sure, they know. They don’t care, as they don’t want to get married and give up their day jobs. They prefer p-n-d or serial monogamy to marriage, with its attending responsibilities and expectations. German husbands are high-maintenance in comparison to American ones (I should know, heh). German women usually have a hard choice: marriage and babies or career, not both.
That. Ladies is the endgame of feminism. Either committing to a husband, Kinder, Kitchen und Kurke (Children, the Kitchen (Home) and the Church) and be fanatical in caring for him so he does not stray or finding that you are unmarried, at 40, and no one who is within a decade of you will have an affair with you.
Or watch men leave. Go native. Elsewhere.
Regardless, this is the endgame for most women. You can choose to be a feminist, be single, and have intermittent affairs and a long term relationship with your shoes, bags and cat.
Or you can choose to be a crunchy, traditionalist woman and choose a crunchy, traditional man, raise kids, and fervently pray together that the end game does not continue its demographic conclusion.