Another misandric cartoon
Dalrock has a thread up on divorce and post marital spinsterhood. Go over and read it, but I want to start with one of the comments. Sweet As hits the topic out of the park.
One thing that I point out to my 30-something and older single friends is that they are likely going to have to date older, which may also mean giving up on things that they might have wanted.
Dating an older man means that you will get marriage and stability. You might even catch a particularly wealthy older man, which is “even better.”
But, you will not get children (in most cases). And, you will not get a lot of respect (you will be seen as a gold-digger). And, you will not get everything eventually in the will (the kids from previous wife will make sure of that).
You also have to realize that he will die before you. it likely won’t be while you are still young. You stay married until he dies, you might lose the “gold digger” title, but you’ll be in your 60s and 70s and you probably won’t be getting your groove back. Or, if you do, it has to be with older men again. I’ll likely still be trucking along with my husband, who is about my age. Because, he’ll probably die in his 90s. Like me.
I have two sets of comments on this. Firstly. to the Ladies. By older, Sweet As is talking 10 to 20 years older. That makes sense. I’m 51 — and over 35 is attractive (20 is not). But I will probably not make it past 80. I have but 30 years. So if you are in your 30s, you will be a widow in your 60s.
And the corollary is that if you want kids, you better be prepared to breed as soon as you are wed. And for goodness sake, be pleasant. We may forgive 10 kilos of weight, but I want someone who is basically sane and pleasant.
For men… you cannot rely on any woman to keep you healthy. You can predict that you will be done if she lives in the US. Keoni has a story that needs sharing here.
One guy’s story is especially maddening.
He came home one day because a job had gotten rained out, only to find the mother of his two children getting her ass nailed to the bed by their neighbor. He went nuts punching holes in the wall and breaking things (but never touched her) while the neighbor ran out of the house. The cops got called and he ended up getting arrested for domestic violence.
She ended up with the house and a child support settlement.
He drives an old beat up pickup truck, she drives a lexus.
He lives in a small apartment, she a three bedroom house in an upper middle class property in suburbia, and her never employed loser boyfriend lives with her and the two kids.
She hasn’t had any kind of job in 20 years. He’s essentially paying her to live a comfortable life for her and her live-in surf bum fuckbuddy.
She gets 60% of his unemployment check, forcing him to find under-the-table work just to pay his own rent, food and transportation bills.
She regularly denies him visitation. He’s filed more petitions than he can count to force her to allow him time with the kids he’s supposed to have under their court adjudicated divorce settlement. They never enforce her violations of his visitation rights. The only thing he ever gets told is to file another petition. He finally gave up in frustration.
His son is now in his late teens…and he, like so many other boys raised in the typical broken home of our brave new world order, has gone off the rails and gotten involved in petty crimes, drugs and is now in rehab.
And now the ex-wife is telling him that once the boy turns 18, she thinks it would be better for the boy to come live with him in his one bedroom apartment.
As I was saying, you can’t rely on a woman to keep yourself healthy. Now kids are not stupid, and if they have contact with their dad and are allowed to be there, and she is crazy, she will be the one alone with the cats. The surfer boyfriend will find another to breed off.
Girls, stay with the one you already have, and look after him. Men are fairly simple and the good ones will not stray. We (that is men) tend to fall in love, you know. And most of us like women and being around women. It is this environment which is toxic, for women as much as men.
But what do, if you are divorced and male? Or a young man?
- Get your kids out from under. Teach the rules. Raise them. It will cost money, but that is something you can get.. or my rule one: Do not have sex with a woman unless you are prepared to raise her children.
- Choose where you live wisely. The US is bad. The UK may be worse. (It is the judges that matter, not who his the Prime Minister or President). The court is not your friend. Which leads to rule two Never go out with a woman from North America.
- Look after yourself. Eat right — cook from scratch more meals than you eat out. Go to the gym. Do something, each day. Get a family doctor — who will inevitabely put you on meds for Blood sugar, cholesterol or blood pressure. No not turn to booze or new booty for comfort. Let her develop the substance problem instead, because Living well is the best revenge.
- If you are anything like me, you have an ability to fall in lust virtually instantly and once your little head is engaged, your ability to ascertain your partner’s qualities go out the window. I am no saint: but there is a wisdom in avoiding the meat market. You need to think about your finances, hers, and how the kids will react. They do not want serial aunties. Wait until you are married minded. then don’t date, court. And (obviously) do not marry in the noxiously misandric states, nor live there.
- If you hold in long enough, then you will be a grandparent. And being a granddad is golden.
The game is not that long. There are phases in our lives. You cannot breed forever, you will not be a parent forever, and you won’t be around forever, Keoni’s workmate should be honoured, for he is trying to support his children, and Sweet As is speaking the truth to the sisterhood.
And yes, we all need to pray, There is nothing wrong with love, But we need to get our physical health under control — diet, not eat, and stability not some form of romantic instability… for someone is going to have to correct the dysfunction of this generation. And it ain’t going to be the single mommas.