A couple of weeks ago I said that we had no rights. This caused a considerable discussion over at TC, where Alte pointed out that one has to have some rights to give them away. And then I thought about how Catholics consider natural law and natural rights, while Calvinists think of covenant.
Today’s text suggests that we were all fools. Because there is a clear command. To give our rights away, to sacrifice them.
Matthew 16:21-28
21From that time on, Jesus began to show his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and undergo great suffering at the hands of the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and on the third day be raised. 22And Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him, saying, “God forbid it, Lord! This must never happen to you.” 23But he turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; for you are setting your mind not on divine things but on human things.”
24Then Jesus told his disciples, “If any want to become my followers, let them deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. 25For those who want to save their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it. 26For what will it profit them if they gain the whole world but forfeit their life? Or what will they give in return for their life?
Today EW linked to the story of Stacie Crimm, who delayed chemotherapy to save her child, and died two days after the babe was born. Hearthrose then talked about how sacrifice used to be ordinary…
Women’s sacrifice used to have to do with their children. Every woman knew that childbed might be a deathbed, thus the use of the term “safely delivered”. My great-great grandmother died after giving her husband several children. This was not uncommon.
Common life involved personal sacrifice from women – a century ago. And then modern wonders appeared, each one reducing the personal sacrifice that a woman gave to her family. Woman had her sacrifice, man had his. They were different… but equally sacrificial. (Small tiny example, but to her dying day, my grandmother professed her preference for the back of the chicken, this so our family could all share one chicken at dinner).
New sacrifices were asked, and they were progressively lighter – and more self (and other-woman) centered, rather than for the benefit of husband and children as expressed BY the husband and children. Status-sacrifices, if you will.
And then we started being told that motherhood itself was a sacrifice rather than a joy, and too many women believe that.
So we end up with women who have grown up never having given one moment’s thought to personal sacrifice… is it surprising what they do with that ignorance? Most humans are happy to pour the weight of pain on some other human, if given excuse… and women are given piles and drifts of excuses now.
It’s fairly clear that we are still called to put others before us. To put Christ before us. To take no pride in our achievements. To count others better than ourselves. To give forward, as our parents and grandparents (note to all: I am Late boomer/ gen X and my Dad is a depression babe, so the Boomer meme of looking after oneself is rejected). To care for your body and mind so you are fit to serve. To see self-esteem as a kinder and gentler term for Pride.
And to honour those men and women who lay down their lives for others. For this world will remain risky while it exists.