Another reason not to do it…

Posted on By pukeko

I always feel like a hypocrite when I say sex should remain within marriage. I have one daughter born outside wedlock, and I have not been a saint at all times. Celibacy, singleness, is something I’m living with but it is hard.

However, the risks of being in deep trouble IF you have sex, now, as a male, are higher. You can be retrospectively accused of rape, or worse.

The risks of being in a party where there is a LOT of sex is even higher for a woman. You can end up impregnated, or with photos of your inebriated semi-naked body spread all over facebook and twitter ready for the HR harpies to find it in 10 years time (if you survive the gossip that will occur among your friends. Women are more deadly than men here).

So, this quote from Vanessa is much more important than it was some years ago.

A lot of us who have been made privy to them are seeing this as another instance where a girl’s response to the shaming-instinct is to label everything that happened non-consensual post-occurrence.

So, lesson of the day:

Leave these girls alone. Just don’t have sex with them. It’s really that simple. Sex is for marriage and professional prostitutes, and anyone else you’re sexing is a personal risk on your part.

Even if you don’t force her and everyone knows it, there will be a heck of a lot of people who will have no sympathy for you at all, if she shows up in tears. This is not a modern effect. It has always been this way. Some women are just not worth the trouble.

There is no such thing as safe sex. Pass it on.

Vanessa is wrong about the safe sex bit. There IS safe sex: it is called lifelong monogamy. Or marriage. There are some implications of this

And pray for the women and men who end up in sex work, because it leads to you feeling used, washed up and unworthy of true love, far too young.