A few days ago I put a post up about how we should act in the current times, and if times get worse. This is being resisted. Quite a lot, by some men, who consider that the deck is stacked against them, and nothing can be done.

I like what Donal said on this.

I agree that every man needs to decide for himself what course of action he will take. But deciding to do nothing, and then bitching about life, is not something that I, at least, will respect.

As for self-improvement, it depends on two things: how old the man is, and what abilities and talents nature and God have blessed him with. A young man with a decent amount of talents can easily boost himself up several ranks in SMV over a year if he is committed to it. Especially if he is lower in the scale. Remember, there are relatively few “Alpha” men out there. Assuming that you didn’t lose out completely at the genetic lottery, it should be eminently doable to get into the 7-8 range as a man. At which point you do start to get some options which are a fair bit better.

Even if you are older, there is always SE Asia. Older husband/younger wife combos are quite common over there.

SD might be having empathy issues with some of the men over there, but to be honest, so am I. When you refuse to even lift a finger to help yourself it is really difficult to find any sympathy for you.

If you don’t think it is worth it, then fine. I disagree, but I understand. But don’t continue to bitch about it. Just quietly Go Your Own Way and leave this all behind.

However, I disagree on the “go Asian and not Euro bit”. I say this as someone was married to a Chinese woman, for almost two decades. There is a tendency to act in a very vicious and tight-fisted way: to bargain with everyone, to move from advocacy to actively disobeying laws. But I made a note of the general principles elsewhere.

And Siygn adds some hard truth for us men here.

[Deti said]

SD, you cannot help these men. All you can do is try and empathize. Deltas and Gammas will have to decide for themselves how they can improve; what they can possibly get; how much time and effort it will take; and ultimately whether the possible return is worth the investment. It’s really just that simple. As donal says, we as men should either do the work and take our chances; or quietly go our own way and stop bitching

And those unwilling should stop discouraging the willing

Every single man has to examine his conscience. You can choose for a season — indeed a very long season — to be content, to not date, to not look. to do other things. To go your own way.

If you do this, you better be comfortable in your own skin, because you will be alone.

A lot.

If you want to not be alone, then, man of God, court. With wisdom, integrity, and a full knowledge that you will need to continually work on yourself, for as men are attracted to youth (in general) women (in general) are attracted to the most powerful amd high status men. So make yourself into that.

Increase your mana, your power, your clout. And for that I have but two bits of advice: me as competent and fit as you can be and then, use your power for others, not yourself. For power hoarded goes rotten, power gifted gets returned.