Tells for girls.

This one is written for women. who is single and looking out for someone else. I’m biased. My daughter, who is happily married, to a decent man, but  I have grand daughters. I want them to marry someone decent.

It’s a jungle out there. The rates of STDs may be increasing. Every time you sleep with someone. you share all their bugs… including the ones they got from their previous partners.

So the number counts. You simply do not want to be with a  high number man. They may be excellent one night stand acrobats, but you are looking for a marraige partner.

Now, I’d say lay off until you are married… keep your discretion. You will need it to sort out a few things: the prenup, what to do with children, which church,

If you can’t agree on finances, don’t sleep with him. Because if you sleep with him you better be prepared to raise or support  him raising a kid. Sex leads to children… even in the world of Sandra Fluke, where no consequences sex has been elevated to some perverted human right.

Ladies first. They boys can follow…

Dalrock starts with how a manwhore makes you feel.

That one is easy: You have an instant attraction to and connection with him. He is the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love with him. It seems like he knows you better than yourself. He is the man all of the romcoms, romance novels, and other chick crack tells you will one day sweep you off your feet. All of your girlfriends are jealous.

In short, if he sounds too good to be true, he probably is. Deti expanded this:

1. You’ve met him at a bar. He’s been chatting you up for quite a while. He doesn’t seem the slightest bit nervous. He’s almost too confident. He number closes you. You watch him walk to another area of the bar and does the same thing with another girl you’ve never seen before.

2. He isn’t at all nervous when talking to you for the first few times.

3. He pushes hard for P in V sex the first time he gets you alone.

4. He doesn’t necessarily push for the same night lay, but he does push for sex very soon.

5. You’ve heard from other girls that he pumped and dumped them.

6. He has a crappy job and is always broke. He mistreats and uses everyone around him. But somehow he can always get women. (This is the number one cad/manwhore tell, as far as I can see.)

7. He purposely keeps details about himself shrouded in mystery, even after you’ve been seeing him for a month or so. He doesn’t talk about what he does or where he is when he is not with you.

8. After you sleep with him, he ditches you — calls and texts go unreturned. (You’ve just been pumped and dumped.)

9. After you rebuff his advances, either (1) calls and texts are unreturned, or (2) there seems to be a systematic way he returns calls and texts, with increasing durations between a call/text and its return.

Cane was a little more cynical

I don’t think your cad list is as useful because you’ve approached it as a man.

1) Dalrock’s one line goes right to the heart of her feelings; it’s more intuitive.

2) Women are fundamentally impervious to checklists. A woman’s mental checklist is long (pro and con) not because it’s useful, but to make it useless. The worse the relationship (whether because he’s a bad boy, or because she’s a slut) the longer the list will be, because more justification noise is required to drown out the crying. The real list is only one point long, and there’s only two varieties.

A) I want to.

B) I don’t want to be alone.

When Cad comes along and she likes him, even if he ticks off a perfect 9 for 9 on the bad boy list, she’ll just turn it into a 99 point list. See? He’s not so bad

Dawn, however, managed to meld both systems.