Dalrock refers to Glen Greenwald who has the case of a woman who used (the now broken and hacked) Ashley Madison to find men and women to relieve her sexual tension since her marriage is loveless and her husband is dying.
And framed it as if she was in the right and has no moral agency.
Greenwald frames his post as fighting for kindness for the cheating wife, but what he has done to her is anything but kindness. This woman is so self centered she can’t see her own wickedness; Greenwald fails her* by taking the easy path of coddling her and encouraging her to see herself as the victim. Greenwald gets to feel good for protecting a woman, even though he is in reality only harming her. Nothing Greenwald writes will change whether this woman is ultimately outed and loses her job (she has a
Source: Why won’t he hurry up and die already? | Dalrock
One of the big errors we can make is see ourselves as victims. That our sins are due to what happened to us. This keeps us trapped in the same pattern of behaviour. It is far, far better to take responsibility for our sins, and seek to undo the damage we have done.
In better times a woman nursing her husband through an illness that left him gelded would have been encouraged to remain courageous, and faithful. Consider, as the commentators at Dalrock’s did, what would be said if a man cheated on his wife while she was in chemotherapy and unable to care for his sexual needs: he would be damned by society, and rightly so.
Ashley Madison was a website with morality akin to providers of crack cocaine and fetish porn.
The outing of their subscriber list is as wrong. It will keep those who are slightly less immoral (I am talking about the family courts) employed for a considerable time: when the family court should never be encouraged.
Hackivism has destroyed the idea that your subscriptions to anything is not public knowledge has been destroyed both by this and the outing of Brendon Eitch as a not supporting gay marriage. We do need some privacy back.
But we also need to rediscover that we are moral agents, and stop making everything either the fault of others or some kind of “addiction”. For if we do not call it sin we cannot repent.
