Comments on: On (why) men are angry (and what to do about it). https://pukeko.net.nz/blog/2015/05/on-why-men-are-angry-and-what-to-do-about-it/ Bleak Theology: Hopeful Science Tue, 15 Mar 2016 10:31:42 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.4.2 By: Bratsche 4 Lyfe https://pukeko.net.nz/blog/2015/05/on-why-men-are-angry-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5304 Wed, 13 May 2015 16:17:19 +0000 https://pukeko.net.nz/blog/?p=6453#comment-5304 Wow, where to begin? If we disagree about viola playing, NBD, but there are grave implications here. You should not be treating ANYONE in a professional capacity.

1) Ethics: Have you heard of them? You’re a “Christian” psychologist who deceives by giving these so-called canned responses. You don’t have the courage of your (awful) convictions enough to be honest about your contempt for half the population. (Don’t you have a mother?)

When you sit with men who have scars on their neck from trying to hang themselves yesterday and have to sort their life out on a regular basis you can say that. Because that is what I’m paid to do. And I’m a psychiatrist: I do ECT, medications, CBT, evidence base, and drug trials.

Your logical error, of course, is nihil ad hominem.

2) Ability: What kind of psychologist not only is deceptive but contemptuous enough of women to deny their anger? To presume you know our thoughts better than we do? (Trust me, no woman who knows your true opinion thinks you are “nice.”)

You are missing the point. Men tend to be destructive in their anger, more so than women, which is why (many) women enlist (by legislation or personal appeal) men to exert violence on those whom they think deserve it. Women can and do destroy their lives: again see it all too often.

But men’s anger is discounted in this time. And that is what the post is about.

Finally, do you not understand rhetoric?

Let me be plain: No vulnerable person, woman or man, seeking mental health should be allowed anywhere near your practice.

For your information: I have been doing my trade for 20 years: I am good at it. Part of what the job is about is that you see whomever and whatever walks through the door. Again, when you have sat with and worked with a man who has been convicted of homosexual rape and is fetishistically attracted to your race and habitus you can talk: I have been there and done that. When you have had to deal with refugees from both sides of a conflict one after another (I was working in another town, and it covered a refugee centre). You neither know the patients or the field.

You do realize that the blog is what I do away from work and at work I do what is needed for the person in front of me. Which varies. But… if you really want to see risk, at the extreme end, look at the damaged, look at the substance abusing, and look at men.

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By: Praguer https://pukeko.net.nz/blog/2015/05/on-why-men-are-angry-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5302 Wed, 13 May 2015 14:47:33 +0000 https://pukeko.net.nz/blog/?p=6453#comment-5302 You’re brave. I’ve been reading your comments here and elsewhere – I was led here by a comment you made on another blog. You think women aren’t angry, but are just tantrum throwers. You’ve said that when confronted by women complaining about violence you give “canned responses”. You’ve mentioned that the psychologists you work with act like high schoolers.

Psychologists who can be easily identified, who may not like their professional behaviour called into question on your blog.

Is this appropriate for a psychiatrist who blogs under his own name? I wonder what your patients and colleagues would think if they found it.

You’re not a “doubleplusungoodthinker” – you’re shockingly unprofessional.

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By: Lucia Maria https://pukeko.net.nz/blog/2015/05/on-why-men-are-angry-and-what-to-do-about-it/comment-page-1/#comment-5281 Tue, 12 May 2015 04:49:52 +0000 https://pukeko.net.nz/blog/?p=6453#comment-5281 Hi Chris,

You might find this helpful: Anger and Forgiveness

Catholic psychotherapist Deacon Dr. Bob McDonald provides a spiritual and psychological prescription for overcoming the sinful anger that poisons the mind of Christ within, causing alienation and division. His practical wisdom shows that only by learning how to forgive can we hope to promote healing and understanding in our relationships and enjoy the blessings of a forgiving heart.


There isa Godly wrath that is not a sin. At times I read the church fathers, and they were far blonter than I: who tends to be too blunt for this age. So not all anger is sinful. We should be angry about the insitutional evil in our society.

(I am not Catholic: I am reformed in theology (that is, hard-core Presbyterian). The local priests should be thankful. I give my minister enough pain as it is)
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Some of the anger I have had (and men have) is personal, and forgiveness is something that has to be revisited. This is not one lecture or one session. It requires working through — and I mean that more in the sence of daily turning from anger to forgiveness thanin the technical meaning of the word to a therapist

Although you have forgiven, you have to deal with the consequences of the actions daily. And that can cause emotions, will cause emotions.

But thanks for the link: yes I did look.

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