Comments on: Notes on remarriage.

By: chrisgale

Wed, 01 Oct 2014 19:23:00 +0000

Look, it’s true.
I have been told (by my daugther, no less) that I have a terrible “chooser”. But I have worked out some filters. At my age, most single women are widowed or divorced; The women I honour are those who have been faithful.

Faithful when wed; faithfully celibate following that.

Not those who I have seen have multiple partners: with very short periods between them. Those who come across as so wanting a white knight to begin with and then who flake out when he is imperfect.

I work in acute mental health. I see they guys after their wife has dumped them to the curb, called the police on them, got them kicked out of the house because “I’m scared” and have not quite hanged themselves. Sometimes we don’t see them: but instead the kids or wife when the guilt gets too much after the funeral.

Some of these people I like: some are friends, but I will not wife them up. Because the best predictor of the future is past behaviour.

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By: Chillingworth

Wed, 01 Oct 2014 16:48:00 +0000

“And then they put a ring on it and come over here to whine to us about how terrible their lives are, when we have warned them a million times to vet women like their lives depend upon it.

“Because their life does depend upon it. I’ve been to two funerals for men who killed themselves after ending up trapped in a marriage to an unsuitable woman, and I’ve watched other men try to kill themselves or just end up a dreary puddle of pathetic.”

No pressure!

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By: Hearthrose

Wed, 01 Oct 2014 00:12:00 +0000

FWIW in the OT, you were not allowed to remarry a woman you’d divorced who had then married another guy. I don’t know that it’s the civil divorce that makes the ex-spouse dead (I’m not Reformed) but the action of -ahem- marriage to someone *else* which contaminates their bodies … at least to you. I know in our very disorganized church, we’ve celebrated a few folks remarrying who haven’t married other folks in the interim, because they did reconcile – and what the state says has very little to do with what God says. (Especially here!)

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