On reflection here’s what I’ve learned. I was a spiritual ninny, wallowing around in sanctimonious self pity and unforgiveness, carried about by every wind of doctrine and mostly on the bones of my backside. That is not an attractive picture to any woman who may be contemplating their folly in abandoning the marriage and thinking about going back. I was my own worst enemy. My advice is to use the freedom you have to use your gifts and talents to better yourself. Ask the Holy Spirit to direct your life forward, not back. Forgive the other party totally, as often as it takes, and move on with no expectations of being justified or them ‘learning their lesson’. The marriage was over the moment they moved to another man’s bed and decided to stay there or hop to another one.
Women and men are supposed to complement each other but it doesn’t always work that way and you can live very happily without them. I had only one brief dating relationship during my years on my own and I don’t think I even needed that to play out. It’s more fulfilling not being needy.