Can I recommend turtle and compass. Her most recent bit about grooming and clothing and fashion makes sense to someone who notices grooming and such things — that is a male who likes women.
These things matter, because for most women, what men things matters. Sunshine Mary hits it out of the park.
In the past, women behaved properly because they wanted to be seen in a good light by men. They wanted this because they knew they needed men both to survive and in order to be happy. But it was frustrating because we had to rein in our worst tendencies.
Feminism was supposed to free us from men’s judgement. Feminism was supposed to allow us to act out our worst tendencies while simultaneously forcing men to suck it up and like it. And because they were able to influence both the cultural narrative and the legislature, feminists made it difficult for men to voice their true opinions. Thus feminists imagined they had won; they believed they had succeeded in making men actually like women at their worst. Most men want to coach, most men want to lead.
The manosphere has been a huge wake up call for feminists because they have to confront the horrifying reality that they have utterly and completely failed. Men do not like fat sluts. They did not like them then and they do not like them now and they never will like them.
Well, the simple reason is that men are men and women are women. Most men like women to be beautiful, pretty: most men like seeing her in things they know that were made out of the money that they wore. Most men want to be proud of the woman at their side, and rejoice in her success.
And most men know that they are not the person with all the answers, and that God does not just give you things on a plate. Sometimes things go sideways. Sometimes you have to work late. Sometimes you get injured. But men know to get up and keep on going.
Most men don’t try to be beautiful, but instead faithful, functional and not mystical: we don’t like the new age mystics moving into some form of wicca and we don’t want to be seen as some kind of spiritual witchdoctor
Brothers, we are not witchdoctors. I say that because several years ago I heard a pastor say, “I feel like a witchdoctor because I come to people’s situations of crisis, I pray over them, and I do the things I am supposed to do and go and visit them and stand up and preach my sermons. I just feel like everybody expects some kind of magic from me in every area of my life.”
And when I heard the pastor saying that I heard exhaustion. And it was the kind of exhaustion that comes when we expect that we ourselves are going to be the vehicle of God’s grace and of God’s kingdom building, rather than God’s Spirit working through us. There is a sense of exhaustion, a sense of fatigue, a sense of disappointment when we see people who we have poured our lives into walk away. Or we see ministries that we’ve been pouring our lives into not seem to grow, and we feel as though we are failing because we don’t have the magic — we don’t have the stuff.
But Scripture doesn’t call us to magic.
Scripture call us to faithfulness and the Scripture tells us that the fruit that Jesus brings forward often happens long, long, long after we have eyes to see those things. It is really startling to me when I look at the New Testament. Everybody seems to have a messiah-complex except for the actual Messiah, who is able to walk away from the crowds and see God’s purpose, and is able to see God’s plan, and is able to rejoice in that kind of tranquility.
I see two ways ahead. One where we submit to God and do our duty and are faithful. And the other where we pretend to like that which we have never liked, where we celebrate the incompetent, prefer the perverse, and shame those who are competent as haters, wreckers and kulaks. I have a suspicion that the first option will increase your happiness and changes of survival in this life, and be judged as worthy in the next.
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