For a woman who wants to be godly, and show the symbols of submission, it is fairly simple but radical. Wear a scarf or hoodie: put it up in the service. But it is not about the hoodie. It is not about the hijab. There are many women who wear this in rebellion, saying that they are better, more radical, more spiritual than their husbands. For the husband knows that he has to go out and work, to bring in the supplies… and it is better to do this in a time of peace.
We have had Pashtun locums. Their wives love NZ. They don’t need to worry about suicide bombers while in the supermarket, as they have to in they Khyber.
But this peace comes at a cost. You have to have borders. You have to have unity. And without Christ, without gender, without structure, the people are without vision, and they perish.
When a false definition of servant leadership is mandated for the church, the only people who will simply ignore that teaching will be the dullards and pigs. The sincere Christian men, who falsely believe they are being taught in accordance with the Word, will dutifully disarm. They will abdicate their essential role of actual leadership in the home, and they will call it servant leadership, leading from behind, or “just-what-I-was-going-to-suggest-leadership.” But there is a vast difference between real servant leadership, the kind Christ practiced and enjoined, and the kind that requires men to stand down whenever mama ain’t happy. By so emphasizing servant leadership, the church has not succeeded in establishing more of it, but they have succeeding in giving men a noble-sounding name as a fig leaf for their cowardice.
When the decent men are laboring to not be “so masculine,” and the pigs lean into being “masculine,” the end result will be that we will start having to deal with this thing called toxic masculinity. Now he would be a fool who said there was no such thing as a toxic, overdone masculinity—there certainly is. I myself have seen some remarkable specimens of it. But feminism has created it. Accommodations with feminism nurture it. And so now we have gotten to the point where ordinary, standard-issue masculinity is declared to be toxic by definition. This has only happened because the feminist mind starts by banning AR-15s, and ends by banning anything that might, in any possible world, remind them of one. The liberal mind starts by saying that it is “common sense” to keep guns out of schools, but they always end by expelling the kid who ate his Pop Tart into the shape of a gun.
There are two kinds of miserable women. God has created woman for the man, and she wants to be relationship with him. But the bond of this relationship—called covenant—has been rejected. Covenants have stipulations, terms, standards, and patterns. Most importantly, a covenant has a head, and that head is the husband. Covenants are inescapably bound together by that thing called authority, and our generation, by abandoning the concept of authority, has destroyed the fundamental protection for women and children that God established in the world. So men and women are no longer together in covenant, and so miserable women have to make shift. They still have a deep creational need to be in relationship with men, but they must come up with their own bonds to maintain that relationship.
It is not about the hoodie. It is about the structures for what we are created, and living with sobriety. The Muslim covers for false reasons: we take our hats off in church because this is scriptural.
And we need to accept that we need to accept our place in the structure. To do not is to leave the church, and embrace an idol we make, a false mystery of our own making, and in that we will build not Jerusalem but Gehenna.
2I commend you because you remember me in everything and maintain the traditions just as I handed them on to you. 3But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the husband is the head of his wife, and God is the head of Christ. 4Any man who prays or prophesies with something on his head disgraces his head, 5but any woman who prays or prophesies with her head unveiled disgraces her head – it is one and the same thing as having her head shaved. 6For if a woman will not veil herself, then she should cut off her hair; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or to be shaved, she should wear a veil. 7For a man ought not to have his head veiled, since he is the image and reflection of God; but woman is the reflection of man. 8Indeed, man was not made from woman, but woman from man. 9Neither was man created for the sake of woman, but woman for the sake of man. 10For this reason a woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels. 11Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man or man independent of woman. 12For just as woman came from man, so man comes through woman; but all things come from God. 13Judge for yourselves: is it proper for a woman to pray to God with her head unveiled? 14Does not nature itself teach you that if a man wears long hair, it is degrading to him, 15but if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For her hair is given to her for a covering. 16But if anyone is disposed to be contentious – we have no such custom, nor do the churches of God.
17Now in the following instructions I do not commend you, because when you come together it is not for the better but for the worse. 18For, to begin with, when you come together as a church, I hear that there are divisions among you; and to some extent I believe it. 19Indeed, there have to be factions among you, for only so will it become clear who among you are genuine. 20When you come together, it is not really to eat the Lord’s supper. 21For when the time comes to eat, each of you goes ahead with your own supper, and one goes hungry and another becomes drunk. 22What! Do you not have homes to eat and drink in? Or do you show contempt for the church of God and humiliate those who have nothing? What should I say to you? Should I commend you? In this matter I do not commend you!
23For I received from the Lord what I also handed on to you, that the Lord Jesus on the night when he was betrayed took a loaf of bread, 24and when he had given thanks, he broke it and said, “This is my body that is for you. Do this in remembrance of me.” 25In the same way he took the cup also, after supper, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me.” 26For as often as you eat this bread and drink the cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death until he comes.
27Whoever, therefore, eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be answerable for the body and blood of the Lord. 28Examine yourselves, and only then eat of the bread and drink of the cup. 29For all who eat and drink without discerning the body, eat and drink judgment against themselves. 30For this reason many of you are weak and ill, and some have died. 31But if we judged ourselves, we would not be judged. 32But when we are judged by the Lord, we are disciplined so that we may not be condemned along with the world.
33So then, my brothers and sisters, when you come together to eat, wait for one another. 34If you are hungry, eat at home, so that when you come together, it will not be for your condemnation. About the other things I will give instructions when I come.
Woman, you may hate this. You may want your man to obey you. You may say that “If Mamma ain’t happy, no one is happy!”. You may pout. But you do not have the burden of leadership: by the fruit you will know them, and the current crop of female politicians fear their own men while importing far more dangerous and violent nations who will ignore the rules. And bring bombers to the supermarkets.
This will not end well. The alternative is that disaster is that we accept that we are all spiritual babies, and seek the wisdom of God. Which will coufound men. From an Orthodox Priest in the Zuckerborg:
Yes, whenever there is time for discussion, and especially whenever there is a big decision to be made, it is wise to get input from both wife and children. And if the husband and wife are not mutually onboard, it is good to discuss, in order to seek mutual understanding and agreement.
As you pointed out, mutual agreement is not always reached. In such cases, a decision still needs to be made.
Also, there are situations where the godly answer to a question is not ambiguous. Of course families should pray together daily. Of course meals need to be cooked and clothes need to be cleaned. Of course we should avoid having a sharp tongue with one another. If a wife balks at such things out of laziness or apathy, even a spiritual baby should be able to confidently identify what is right and what is wrong. In such cases, correction needs to be clearly and lovingly offered.
Finally, and most importantly, being the leader of the household means the husband has a pressing responsibility to seek spiritual maturity. If he sees himself as a spiritual baby, that is good for him to be humble and honest about his present spiritual state. And then he needs to set down the remote control, turn off the sports radio, and get serious about reading Scripture and the writings of the Saints. He needs to get serious about attending liturgy faithfully, going to confession, and partaking of the holy mysteries. Such a man needs to fall on his knees before God, begging for wisdom on a daily basis. Such a man must not be content being a spiritual baby. He must grow up, so that he can properly lead his wife and his children.
It is not about the external marks of worship. Though they have value. It is accepting that we are male and female: both worthy, both created well, and both different.
Let enjoy the difference.
And let us not let the West fall, though the termagent harpies who currently rule betray us.